Frequently asked questions (FAQ)

ABOUT PSYCHOTHERAPY

Simply put, psychotherapy is a scientific process in which a trained professional (psychotherapist) will help any person who wishes change their distress, manage their disorder or/and develop better functioning. It involves use of various methods, techniques and exercises within a systematic and scientific framework, such that you can determine, understand and change/manage/improve your functioning.
In our ever-changing unpredictable lives, we often experience difficulties and distress that negatively impacts us.
Just like all humans, you too may face difficult times that you may not absolutely and completely be able to resolve by yourself...
You will mostly be able to handle some level of stress. However, there are times in life when this stress demands the energy and resources that may exhaust and burn you out! Research proves that in such times, seeking help from a trained and certified mental health professional helps to a very great extent.
Consider taking an appointment with me when you wish to
Change your distress which generally caused by Negative emotions (fears, anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, jealousy, anger and hurt), Negative thoughts (worthlessness, hopelessness, over thinking) Negative behaviours (repetitive/compulsive behaviours, addictions, lifestyle problems, avoidance/procrastination and unhealthy reactions)
Improve your current functioning : Develop skills that will help you improve your lifestyle, behaviors, relationships and performance; and experience greater overall satisfaction and happiness
Adjust to something you can’t change : Acknowledge that even though some difficult situations/people can’t change, there is probably something you can do about it that help you mange circumstances and reduce the negative impact it has.
Therapy will majorly help YOU & OUTCOMES IN YOUR LIFE IMPROVE. The TOP TEN benefits of therapy are:
  • Reduced emotional distress and increased emotional comfort
  • Changing unhealthy behaviour into healthy ones
  • Learning and applying new skills that improve your functioning
  • Changing unhealthy thoughts into healthy ones
  • Improved problem solving, decision making and clear thinking
  • Increased motivation and goal oriented behaviour
  • Increased self awareness and acceptance
  • Improved interactions and relationships
  • Increased life satisfaction and happiness
  • Lowered stress and improved health
You can seek help for ANYTHING that you are finding difficult to manage, cope or deal with; or even something that you need to improve. It’s not about how big or small, new or old your problem is, the only thing that actually matters is that you are disturbed. The top most common issues of children, adolescents and adults are:

ADULTS

  1. Stress, Pressure, Frustration
  2. Negative thoughts (over-thinking, suicide, worthlessness, loneliness etc)
  3. Negative emotions (Depression, Anxiety, fears, anger, shame, guilt)
  4. Job/Career problems (confusion, lack of motivation and goal directedness, failures, dissatisfaction, work life imbalance, low performance)
  5. Conflicts and Relationship Issues (social, sexual, marital and familial problems)
  6. Low confidence and unhealthy self image
  7. Addictions (gaming, internet, smoking, alcohol etc)
  8. Behavioural problems (Procrastination i.e. Avoiding or putting off tasks, aggression, stealing, disobedience, compulsive behaviours i.e. doing something again and again)
  9. Assertiveness (not expressing own needs, emotions, opinions; not being able to say no)
  10. Traumatic events (divorce, death of loved one, terminal illness, abuse)

ADOLESCENTS

   CHILDREN
  1. Dealing with Peer Pressure
  2. Depression
  3. Anxiety (performance, social interaction, public speaking)
  4. Problematic Behaviours (use of technology and internet, lying, stealing, disobedience, arguments)
  5. Parental Pressure
  6. Addictions
  7. Career Confusion
  8. Academic Problems
  9. Negative Emotions
Negative Thoughts
  1. Behavioural Problems
  2. Emotional Problems
  3. Learning Disabilities
 

SEEKING HELP

If you are going through difficult times and experiencing distress, professional help may be highly beneficial. To find out whether psychotherapy will be beneficial, take this 10 minutes FREE questionnaire.
Hurdles are a part of everyone’s life. However, different people consider different things as troublesome. It doesn’t mean anything about you apart from the fact that you are a normal human being who can be distressed. It doesn’t mean that you are crazy mad or mentally or emotionally weak. It however does mean that you are someone who is trying to improve your life because you are aware and understand that professional therapist can help.
Family and friends are very helpful but that help is often not enough for a significant and desired change. Since family and friends are so important, the fear hurting them, losing them, their negative reactions, their disapproval and judgments is often a major concern. This discourages most people to express freely. Therapists on the other hand, are extensively trained to be objective, unbiased and nonjudgmental. I understand that you are an imperfect/fallible human being and you need not fit any role, expectation, standard for me. I am trained to effectively understand your concerns and help you decide as well as reach the goal that is most helpful to you!
Family and friends are very helpful but that help is often not enough for a significant and desired change. Since family and friends are so important, the fear hurting them, losing them, their negative reactions, their disapproval and judgments is often a major concern. This discourages most people to express freely. Therapists on the other hand, are extensively trained to be objective, unbiased and nonjudgmental. I understand that you are an imperfect/fallible human being and you need not fit any role, expectation, standard for me. I am trained to effectively understand your concerns and help you decide as well as reach the goal that is most helpful to you!
If your therapist is helpful he/she is right for you. When the therapist is helpful, you are able to improve and see some positive changes in yourself. Understand that reduction of negatives may also be a positive. The only way of knowing is trying. Checking on the background of the therapist may be helpful.
Since education and training of psychologists in India is not highly developed for practical application, finding a trained therapist and an effective practitioner in India is indeed a difficult task. There are however, some guidelines that can result in finding efficient therapists…
        Minimum Education Qualification –
        • B.A. Psychology -> M.A. Psychology (Clinical or Counseling)(Masters in Psychology with a specialization in Clinical or Counselling Psychology)
        • Additional degrees in Medicine (MBBS, MD, DNB) do not equip a therapist in the practice of psychotherapy in any manner
        Further Training – This is the most important criteria. Check whether your therapist has gone through further certified training in the practice of any particular psychotherapy.
        License and Registration –
      It’s important that the therapist has either or both of the following–
      • A license from the Rehabilitation Council of India i.e. an RCI Registration
      • A service firm registration or a Gomasta Registration

PROCESS

Have you ever gone to a new doctor or a new bank? How many people did you know there? But you still got your work done! How could they help you? Because, that’s their job. They are trained to help you with your illnesses and finances respectively; just like I am trained to help you with your emotional, behavioural and attitudinal problems. Similar about being able to understand you, in spite of not having the exact same experience. A cardiac surgeon does not have to get a heart attack to treat his patients!
Just like different teachers explain the same concept differently, using different techniques; different therapists approach problems differently, depending on their training backgrounds and the approach they follow. Approaches to psychotherapy fall into five broad categories:
  • Psychoanalysis and psychodynamic therapies – focusing on the unconscious
  • Behavior therapy – focusing on behaviours
  • Cognitive therapy – focusing on thoughts that can change emotions and behaviours
  • Humanistic therapy – Focusing on potentials and growth
  • Integrative or holistic therapy – taking from each of the above approaches
At Manahsparsh, I follow and practice Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (R.E.B.T.) and Cognitive Behviour Therapy (CBT) which are the most researched and highly evidence based therapies in the world. They are both cognitive therapies.
The total number of sessions will differ depending on the kind of therapy you are undergoing. Just like how homeopathic, allopathic and ayurvedic medicine differ. It will also depend on the goals you have set and your underlying problems. In REBT (the therapy I follow) the average numbers of sessions one may require are 6 to 8 with each session lasting from 45 minutes to an hour.
You wouldn’t know whether it will work/help/benefit unless you try it. Give your therapy and therapist a genuine shot. Most often seeing some significant difference will take at least 3 sessions. Post that you will know that you have benefitted if you have reached the goals (emotional and/or behavioural) set mutually in therapy.
Things to expect before your 1st session:
  • 1. Waiting in the reception/waiting area for your therapist to call you in
  • 2. A pleasing office that looks slightly informal and may have sofa/corner seating
  • 3. Introduction with your therapist and a small conversation about you
  • 4. Therapist or someone in the office may ask you for your information and history
Things to expect in your 1st therapy session:
  • 1. Question about your current problem you decided to seek help for
  • 2. Some assessment/test/questionnaire that you may have to answer
  • 3. Education and information about your problem, the therapy process and framework
  • 4. Breaking your unrealistic expectations and therapy myths
  • 5. Setting a clear goal and agenda from therapy
  • 6. Therapist may refer you to a doctor in medicines may be required
Things you need for your therapy session:
  • 1. Identification of one or some or all of your problems that are troublesome
  • 2. Decision to work on these with a professional
  • 3. Motivation to do something to change your current state
  • 4. Maybe a notebook and a pen
  • 5. Your therapist’s fees
  • 6. Cooperation because no matter what you think, we are not mind readers

R.E.B.T.

R.E.B.T. i.e. Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy given by Dr. Albert Ellis, is a philosophy and approach to life that simply states that changing thought patterns can help people change their emotions which will lead to a change in behaviours as well.
Following is the process of CBT and REBT
  • 1. Identify the problematic emotions and behaviours
  • 2. Set a goal – emotions and behaviours that are desirable instead
  • 3. Find out what causes these emotions and behaviours – Thought processes
  • 4. Find out the root cause of this – Unhealthy Thoughts
  • 5. Understand why this is unhealthy
  • 6. Replace it with what is healthy and helpful
  • 7. Apply changes in the root and you will see a better fruit
The total number of sessions will differ depending on the kind of therapy you are undergoing. Just like how homeopathic, allopathic and ayurvedic medicine differ. It will also depend on the goals you have set and your underlying problems. In REBT (the therapy I follow) the average numbers of sessions one may require are 6 to 8 with each session lasting from 45 minutes to an hour.

OTHER CONCERNS ABOUT THARAPY

Therapy is a service. Just like you pay your Lawyer a fee for getting you out of legal issues, you pay your therapist to help you get out of your emotional and behavioural issues. It involves exploring and solving a puzzle of your mind. Your therapist, a trained and educated professional gives you an hour of their expertise every time you visit them and hence they charge for every hour! Their fee depends on their training and education as well as their professional experience.
Psychotherapy by itself will never involve medicine because psychotherapists are not medical doctors and are not trained to prescribe any kind of medication. However, sometimes, biological causes like hormones and neurotransmitter imbalances may contribute to emotional and behavioural problems. In such cases, your therapist may suggest you to seek medical examination or help.
Any trained therapist would’ve gone through years of training to be ingrained with two major and basic things –
  • 1) Accepting their clients with all their goods and bads without judging them
  • 2) Keeping their identity and everything they share with the therapist completely confidential
How says you have to completely trust me the very 1st time you see me? You can choose to trust or not trust me in our process together.

Have more questions? Please ASK US.

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